Anger and Resentment Block the Light in You

By Lisa Natoli

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My husband Bill Free and I watched the movie “RBG” this past Sunday night about Ruth Bader Ginsburg, who is an Associate Justice of the Supreme Court of the United States.

This movie (and her life) is Wow. Wow. Wow. Wow. and WOW.

Bill saw the movie a week earlier on a plane to California and when he got home he said: “Lisa, you have just GOT TO see this movie. You will love it. You will seriously love it. I know you. I’ll watch it with you.”

I said to him: “Well. You saw it already. I can watch it by myself.” He said “I want to see it again … WITH YOU.”

Haha. I love this man, Bill Free. By his excitement, I knew there must be something really special about this movie.

We watched it together on Sunday night and WOW. I was just blown away in gratitude, joy and love by what one person can do with the help of others.

I don’t know what rock my head has been under but I didn’t know at all what Ruth Bader Ginsberg has done for women’s rights and equality. What a powerhouse. What a light. What an inspiration for what happens when you are just yourself, taking the next step in front of you and having the courage to speak up and use your voice.

She did everything with kindness and grace, while at the same time staying clear in her mastery, knowing her ultimate goal to change the way things were being done. She knew what she was doing and was deliberate about it.

There are so many things about this movie that I absolutely love that don’t even know where to start.

I guess I’ll start with my favorite thing of all: that she made all these monumental changes with the help of MEN.

I just love that. She didn’t do it alone.

I know that all important changes that occur happen with COLLABORATION and JOINING.

A Course in Miracles reminds us that all sickness and fear and sorrow is a result of separation, a result of doing things alone, by yourself: without God, without others, without our True Self.

I also love the two pieces of advice Ruth’s mom’s gave to her:

Act like a lady and Be independent.

“Act like a lady means don’t be distracted by emotions like anger, envy, resentment. These just zap energy and waste time.” -Ruth Bader Ginsberg

Here is a 2 minute video clip in her own words:


I love this advice because it really shows that we all have the ability to notice anger, envy, resentment, doubt and grievances and NOT GO THERE.

When you recognize these emotions “just zap energy and waste time” you will never go there again.

A Course in Miracles describes it in this way:

“Your grievances hide the light of the world in you.”

Do you really want to keep doing that?

You may have thought (as many people think) “I can’t help it.”

People really think they can’t help but be angry, sad, depressed, with resentments.

I love A Course in Miracles because it’s a way to train your mind in a systematic way to a different perception of everyone and everything in the world.

It’s a way to train your mind to stay in joy, gratitude and peace.
I’m not distracted anymore by anger (doubt, sadness, envy, fear) because I, like Ruth Bader Ginsberg, know it “just zaps energy and wastes time.”

I don’t want to block the light of the world in me anymore. I want this light to flow!

So I no longer hold onto grievances because I know it blocks the light.

Sometimes I’m still triggered by things I see and hear in the world, but I’ve trained my mind sufficiently to STAY STILL in the middle of chaos, and now I can be truly helpful to be available to those in sorrow, pain and fear.

This is a practice that anyone can learn.

No matter what happens in life, you can stay centered in the peace and and joy and love that you are.

You can develop the ability to stay happy, no matter what.

Happiness doesn’t happen because of external events. Happiness is what you are. It is the Self that you are. Click To Tweet

Your True Self as Love as you were created.

And then, when you are connected in truth, you may find yourself in front of events where your voice and light can make a difference.

When I watched the movie RGB, I marveled at how Ruth Bader Ginsberg wasn’t really “doing” anything. She wasn’t trying ot change the world. She wanted to go to Harvard during a time when women mostly didn’t go there, and she wanted to go. And she didn’t back away from the fear of that.

And Ruth’s entire life has been one of just doing the next thing in front of her. One step at a time, accepting the help from the others that was available to her.

My other favorite thing, and I’ll close on this, is how she has touched the hearts and minds of young people.

I’m sure she’s completely surprised to find herself as a role model and icon – being called Notorious R.B.G. – and having her face on coffee mugs, t-shirts, as tattoos, plastered all over social media.

She is the quiet tiny little unassuming woman, with a love for truth.

I wanted to share this with you in the hopes that it gets you thinking about your own life.

What’s in front of you that may require to enter through fear?

Is there something in your life where you are being called, but you are holding back because it might be uncomfortable?

What is it?

We would love to hear from you! Please post in the comments below! Remember that thousands of people come through this website every week and your words of what you do in the face of fear and anger can be a light in the dark for someone else.
If you have not walked through your fear yet, ask yourself: Do you really want to continue to stay in “your comfort zone” just because it’s well, comfortable?

Post your comments below.

My advice is always the same to anyone who is still struggling: Get a copy of A Course in Miracles and do what it says.

Train your mind to see all the mind activity: anger, fear, doubt, resentments and realize that you have the power and ability to stay centered in stillness and peace.

I loved watching Ruth Bader Ginsberg (in this movie RGB) as she was shown a clip of Saturday Night Live making fun of her. You know what she did as she watched? Laughed in genuine joy! She thought it was funny and I love that.

I loved that she showed her humanity as criticized Donald Trump in 2016 and then in true grace, apologized in a way where you can tell she really saw her mistake, and genuinely wanted to correct it in herself.

Through these examples, you can begin to acknowledge how you can stay awake and aware of your own thoughts, emotions and actions – and then do something to correct them.

Which is exactly the training of A Course in Miracles.

You can truly reach a place where you can stay centered in grace and happiness, no matter what.

Lisa Natoli is a teacher, writer, healer and messenger of God. She is the Creator of The Free 40-Day Program for Transformation as well as the Founder of The Healing Cure, online training for True Healing.

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2 years ago

Such a great post!!! So many gems in here! I love RBG as a beautiful role model and I never knew anything about her either, Lisa! The movie was an amazing example of all that you shared. I know the place in me where I stay small, quiet and comfortable. It is at work. I want to bring more Mindfulness techniques, brain research information for teaching and learning, etc., for the students in my school. My old habitual timidity is keeping me from putting myself “out there”in front of my more conservative, not so open minded colleagues. I have an… Read more »

Mary Farrell
Mary Farrell
2 years ago

Like you I had no idea what a national treasure we had with RBG! I love her strength, work ethic, courage, wisdom, stamina, class, and integrity. I too, was blown away by the film of her life. I would proudly wear an RBG t shirt. RBG, MLK, OAC, all the way!

Michael Welch
Michael Welch
2 years ago

I love your enthusiasm for life and deep appreciation for people Lisa. When you’re all in everyone and everything around you lights up. You’re the RBG of the ACIM! 💕❤️🙏

Rebecca Johnson
Rebecca Johnson
2 years ago

I love how all the things I really loved about this movie you noticed them too….Her husband Marty and his love and true conviction in her and her “brain” and her Mother’s advice…ACIM was pinging all over as I watched this. I also watched it on the plane going to Mexico and I had to keep the tissues out, I was so moved.
One more thing she won 5 out of 6 cases she argued in front of the Supreme Court, huge deal for sure.

Denise Rosner
Denise Rosner
2 years ago

I too had no idea what she had done!! I was on a plane to Puerto Rico with my daughter and she said Mom, we have to watch this and I was blown away, like you and Bill. She is indeed such a role model for young people and I was dismayed that I had not heard what she had done but my daughter did! On that plane ride and watching that movie, I was reminded of all that I learned from ACIM and You and that 2-week trip with extended family, that might have otherwise been stressful sometimes, became… Read more »

Miriam B Greenberger
Miriam B Greenberger
2 years ago

So I am going to write this and I am sure that it will not be in the vein of what others will write. Rather than ignore those feelings of anger ..and the like. I say explore them…honor them. They probably come from a history of being wronged and kicking them to the rear will not make them go away . Honor that child in you that feels alone and separate and treasure her or him. Listen to what is causing these feelings and then…by comforting and nurturing yourself…perhaps you can move forward. As you finally do right by yourself… Read more »

Elyse Tannenbaum
2 years ago

I would love to hear Lisa and a course in miracles principles perception on what Miriam expressed

Bill Free
2 years ago

Hi Elyse, I will answer for what I think the Course would say in part. I would say Miriam’s point of view makes sense and may be widely shared by an audience not familiar with A Course in Miracles or it’s teaching. A Course in Miracles is a way of looking at everything you see in this world with new perception so that you are no longer driven by your false projections, fears, doubts, worry, anger, guilt and shame which I think was the basis for RBG’s, Mother’s wisdom even though she was way before the course. When you are… Read more »

Linda Marshall
Linda Marshall
2 years ago

Thank you for sharing about this role model of magnitude and grace. I knew nothing about RBG. I do know I always love your perspective of what you see. With appreciation for being truly helpful and inspiring us to be our true Selves.

Sharon Honerlah
Sharon Honerlah
2 years ago

I just love reading how you Lisa, honor the light in all. I’ve never heard of this lady but will see the movie. It sounds beautiful. I love the part that RBG worked from a place of light and not anger. She was aware and grounded. Beautiful story. Thank you for posting this. Namaste”

2 years ago

Oh my goodness!! This article is just what I needed! At the moment I feel called to work with kids using ACIM. I feel such joy, peace and love when I sit and work it out on paper and in my head but the thought of actually taking those steps creates a lot of fear. I know this article was God speaking… no more playing small, no more being held hostage by fear! As the Holy Child of. God, there is nothing to fear! Thank you!!! Xox