This week I’m going to answer a very important question sent in by Sylvia.
When you’re asking this question, know that you’ve come to a turning point. When I asked myself this same question, it was the day everything changed for me.
It’s about being able to forgive when you see someone else is suffering.
My question is about forgiveness and ACIM Lesson 29: God is in everything I see.
I’m sure that forgiving people and things that push our buttons totally transforms our lives for the better but I have a lot of difficulty dealing with things that happen to others around us. How should we act when harsh reality hits our face? For example, seeing your mother trapped in a wheelchair due to stroke, unable to move or speak properly. I feel like a bastard forgiving something that’s not happening to me. Also, seeing the violence that appears on TV. Is God in everything I see?
First of all, ACIM workbook lesson #29 clearly states that this is just the beginning. There are 365 lessons. Lesson #29 is a springboard for Real vision (aka: ability to see God in everything). Starting from here, the world will open up for you. You’ll begin to see what you’ve never seen before. Through practicing each workbook lesson that follows, you WILL gain Real vision. Jesus is not talking about vision with the body’s eyes, He’s teaching us Christ Vision: Oneness with God is the only reality.
A Course in Miracles doesn’t define forgiveness as a means to pardon someone’s wrongdoings. It uses Jesus’ definition of forgiveness. True forgiveness recognizes that what you thought your brother did has never occurred. Not in the Real world, that is. Only in your dream world. Nothing you see happening here with your eyes effects the Truth of us. Nothing here can shatter our Oneness with God. Our only purpose is to get back to that Truth and forgiveness is the only thing that stands for Truth in this world.
Is It Cruel To Forgive When I See Others Suffer?
So, let’s become masters at true forgiveness.
Mastery starts by understanding that our outer world is a reflection of our inner world.
Translation: How you see yourself is how you see others.
There are only 2 options here.
- If you see yourself as a spiritual being, one with God and one with everything, whole and perfect, having a human experience, then that’s how you’ll see everyone else.
- If you think this dream is real and you see yourself as an individual body, separate from God, vulnerable and temporary, then that’s how you’ll see everyone else.
Let me ask you, which one of these options describes you?
Only one of these options can be real. Each one discounts the other one entirely. So you need to consciously choose.
This is the most consequential decision you’ll ever make. Your whole world is shaped by this decision. THIS BECOMES YOUR REALITY.
Which reality do you want to hit you in the face?
You see, this is about healing your mind. Will you choose to let the Holy Spirit show you Real vision (option 1) or do you want to hang out in the dream of separation (option 2)? You can’t see the Holy Spirit with your eyes but it is VERY REAL and once you join Him, you will be guided the rest of the way. You can relax. You can Trust. You can heal. GUARANTEED.
So, how does forgiveness fit into all of this?
Forgiveness is a tool we use for looking beyond the dream of separation that we see and think is real.
It’s a tool! You DO it. You can’t keep the tool in the drawer. You’ve got to bust it out and use it!
Forgiveness is a choice to look past what the eyes see and remember our wholeness instead. It simply overlooks what’s not there and opens the way to truth that’s been blocked with our thoughts of fear and separation.
So, Sylvia, when your eyes look upon the dream and see someone suffering, and you remember how whole and perfect and Loved they are, it does not make you a bastard! It makes you a healer.
This by no means says we don’t help out on a physical level. YES! We’re all here to help each other and be in service in any way we’re called to but it’s how you hold them in your mind that makes ALL the difference!
When you see your Mom in a wheelchair or victims of violence on the news you must start by asking yourself what the truth of your brother is. Is it option 1 or 2?
Are you looking at a powerful and creative Child of God or a weak and temporary body identity?
Which would be Truly helpful?
Whole and perfect or damaged goods? Can’t be both.
How do you want to see yourself?
Would you see Jesus this way?
Guess what? Your Mom, you, people on the news, me, Jesus, SAME THING!
SAME EXACT THING! Let’s let that reality hit us in the face!
It’s just that Jesus doesn’t hang out in the illusion anymore and that’s where you’re headed!
Forgiveness is just a means to remember this. It’s your power-tool. You’re not saying the small self is real anymore. Forgiveness is ONLY relevant to illusions.
Jesus gives us this short but beautiful prayer of forgiveness: You don’t even need to verbalize it. Holding it in your mind is all that matters.
“My Brother, what I see with the body’s eyes is not the truth.”
This releases you both. It is the greatest gift you could ever give. By using forgiveness where you see suffering, now you are the bringer of the light. You are the great restorer of Truth. You are certainly no bastard.
Actually, these situations are only there for you to learn forgiveness. They are healing opportunities wrapped in difficulties.
“Forgiveness does not support illusions but collects them lightly with a little laugh and gently lays them at the feet of truth. And there they disappear entirely”.
“When you see the truth instead of illusions, you light the way for the both of you. Your step becomes light and you leave a star behind to light your brother’s way.”W134
You’re leaving a star behind to light your brother’s (Mother’s) way. Now, you’re helping! It’s the most loving thing you could possibly offer.
Jesus goes on to say that,
“Forgiveness is a deep relief to those who offer it and a quiet blessing where it is received.”
Forgiveness would only be cruel and irresponsible if the illusion were real. And, Baby, it’s not.
Jesus also says that if we join our brother in the illusion, we’ve chosen “Ponderous amour that keeps you stuck in fear and misery.”
Nothing is as it appears here. God is all there is. Be willing to be shown that this is True. Start leaving stars behind wherever you go.
Question: Will you take this journey with me? Please let me know by leaving me a comment and telling me you’ve chosen Real Vision. Together our strength is multiplied. When the tide raises an inch, all boats are lifted up. You can leave a comment by clicking here.
It starts by offering forgiveness to everyone. Don’t hold the tool in the drawer and decide who gets it and who doesn’t. Offer it to everyone and everything, especially where you see suffering. You’re taking both of you back Home to God’s Love.
Please keep going. Keep up with your workbook lessons. They work miracles. (Hmmmm….sounds like a good title for a book ☺). Do one lesson a day for 365 days. You’ll look back on the year and see everything differently. The peace and joy that surely awaits you will extend to all those around you. This is how you become a light in this world.
If you’d like a “coach” to walk with you through the workbook lessons of ACIM, 365 morning messages to help you understand each workbook lesson and keep you going, I suggest ACIM 365 with Lisa Natoli. She has a way of taking each already beautiful lesson and placing it gently and forever in your heart.
I love you,
Director of Operations and Teacher, Teachers of God Foundation