You are making decisions all day long.
What to do?
Where to go?
What to say?
How to make money?
What to eat?
What to wear?
To post on Facebook or not to post on Facebook?
We think about how to fix problems, heal sickness, end pain, deal with people and situations. Most decisions we make are unconscious, automatic and habitual. So a great practice is to become aware of when you are making decisions. This is the first step! To notice what you are noticing.
Before you take action and before you do anything, have a practice of pausing and being still and going within for an answer, guidance, instruction, direction.
A Course in Miracles says an interesting (and eye-opening!) thing:
“Whenever you decide to make decisions for yourself, you are thinking destructively, and the decision will be wrong.”
Every time I decide to make a decision by myself, I am thinking self-destructively, and the decision will be wrong.
I don’t know about you, but that sentence stopped me in my tracks when I first read it. It’s from Chapter 14 in the Text of A Course in Miracles (I’m reading from the new Circle of Atonement version of ACIM which I love) in a section called “Guiltless Decision Making.”
No wonder I felt bad almost 99 percent of the time in my life-time! I was thinking self-destructively. I was making decisions alone, without my Inner Guide, without my Inner Teacher.
Here in the world, almost no one is taught to look within and acknowledge an Inner Presence.
I know I wasn’t. I was taught to use my senses to guide me.
A Course in Miracles calls this Presence by many names: God, Jesus, the Holy Spirit, Christ, Light, the Love of God.
Other paths call this Presence by these names: Wisdom, Life, Energy, the Universe, the God of your understanding.
That all works too. You can’t get it wrong whatever name you decide to call this Presence. What’s important is that you acknowledge that you are not alone. Call it whatever name you want. It is YOU beyond all your ideas about yourself as a body, a person, a personality, a limited self-identity. It’s your innocence and your holiness and the Presence and Power of God is made manifest when you acknowledge this truth about yourself.
You are the light of the world, one with God.
You are not alone. You are not helpless. You are not weak. You are not bereft of help. With you, AS YOU, is One who knows the way for you and will quite literally guide you when you begin to acknowledge this Presence and trust in it.
Now obviously, almost NO ONE lives this way. Almost no one acknowledges the Presence of God in every situation. Almost no one pauses before each and every uncertain situation, gets quiet, gets still and asks to be shown the way.
And yet, when you begin to live in this way (making no decisions by yourself, making all decision with the Holy Spirit), your life will begin to get easier. Try it and see.
You will feel the joy and peace of God. You will begin to feel excitement and enthusiasm to know there is One with you, who loves you, cares for you, protects you and wants only your good and is actually showing you the way.
But here is the thing: You have to step back and let It lead. You must put this Presence in charge from now on. You will never see the Holy Spirit so living this way requires trust in the invisible, faith in what the body’s eyes will never see.
I suggest you give a definite period of time (one day, a week, 30 days or 40 days) to experiment with this idea. Play with it. Make it into a game, that for the next 30 days or 40 days, you will acknowledge a Presence with you that has all the answers for your happiness. You will make no decisions by yourself. You will say to the Holy Spirit “Decide for me” in everything you do.
If this idea interests you (and I hope it does!), please watch the video. If 20 minutes of video-watching is too much time for you to take, there is a transcript of the video down below. So you have everything you need here to get started. You absolutely do not need to struggle anymore in guilt and doubt.
All decisions made by yourself without the Holy Spirit (even about what to eat!), result in guilt. And like my friend Max Just says about guilt:
“Guilt is the killer.”
The reason you feel guilty when you make decisions by yourself (without acknowledging His presence in you) is because you are not alone. That’s why you feel guilt. When you think you are alone, you are living in a very unnatural way. Without being conscious of it, you are believing in separation from God. When you think you are separate of God, you feel weak, afraid, angry, depressed, sad, unworthy and undeserving. The result of living separate from God is fear, guilt, blame, worry, comparisons, judgments about yourself and others.
Jesus in this section calls it “your pitiful appraisal of yourself.”
HA. That really cuts to the chase.
The reason I love Jesus so much as a role model and teacher is because he’s very direct. He says it like it is. He sees me in guilt and says,
“This is your pitiful appraisal of yourself. Stop it.”
He’s also the most practical guy I know and right here in this section in Chapter 14 of A Course in Miracles and in this video, you will be given very specific instructions for how to live in this new way, making no decisions by yourself.
Because I am a big believer in people looking within and beginning to rely on their Inner Teacher (instead of relying on people outside of them for answers, instruction, direction and guidance), I always suggest people buy a copy of A Course in Miracles and DO WHAT IT SAYS. Make a one-year commitment to complete the workbook lessons. Read the text. Know that the words contained in that book is Jesus talking directly to YOU.
Everything you need for a total transformation is within you now and the how-to instructions for how to accomplish this is in A Course in Miracles which is available to everyone.
So what have you got to lose? Nothing!
Everyone can pause and be still and be quiet every time they feel uncertain and turbulent. Everyone has the ability to say,
“Holy Spirit. Here I am.”
It might even come out as a question like “Holy Spirit?” (because in the beginning you don’t know for sure if what I am saying is true) and that will work too. You don’t have to believe in the Holy Spirit, you don’t have to believe in God, but if you want to see changes in your life, you do need to open your mind to the possibility that “maybe” what I am saying is true. And then play with the idea.
See what it is like to live for one whole day without making decisions by yourself. See what it’s like to be quiet every time there is a decision to be made.
“Unlearn isolation through His loving guidance, and learn of all the happy communication that you have thrown away but could not lose. When you are in doubt what you should do, think of His Presence in you and tell yourself this and only this:
He leadeth me and knows the way, which I know not.
Yet He will never keep from me what He would have me learn.
And so I trust Him to communicate to me all that He knows for me.
Then let Him teach you quietly how to perceive your guiltlessness, which is already there.”
You will most definitely begin to see the effects of the Holy Spirit in your life, removing obstacles and difficulties from your pathway and leading you.
Most of us have been taught to trust in ourselves and that’s the problem.
Jesus in A Course in Miracles says “you have been badly taught” and I believe him. We begin trusting in this Presence and this Power. Making no decisions by ourselves.
I would love to hear from you once you have spent at least one day making all decisions with the Holy Spirit.
Question: What kinds of things that happened when you stopped making decisions by yourself? You can leave a comment by clicking here.
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