A Course in Miracles clearly answers the question, “How should I react to my brother’s mistakes?”
Very simply: Don’t.
Only the ego can see ego. Only error sees error. If you are worrying about another’s mistakes, you’re both confused.
No matter how crazy someone is acting, it doesn’t change that FACT that they are the perfect, lovable, indestructible, powerful, eternal, wholly worthy, supremely Loved, Son of God. This is the only Truth and nothing they do in this human experience can change it. Your only job is to stay super-focused on this. Anything else and you’re heading down the wrong path. You are lost. You are not helpful.
In this video, I will go into this topic in more detail.
You have ONE job to do here. You came here to remember God; to remember your Wholeness. You must not let your eyes deceive you from your One function.
Whatever vision you have of this “messed up” person represents who YOU think YOU are. It’s showing you where you are locating yourself and should ONLY be used for correction. You are being clearly shown where you have buried fear and your deepest unconscious beliefs about yourself.
Hold out your hand because this brother has come to Bless you. He is the Son of God, along with You. This realization must be accepted for you to be released. Without this, you stay lost in fear.
Jesus says in ACIM that we must overlook the error. See only their Wholeness. Hold yourself there. This is how you remember your own wholeness. You cannot remember this alone. You need this brother. This is the whole purpose of your relationship. Do not use this situation to reinforce a lie. This is for YOU.
From now on, instead of correcting anyone, here are 5 steps, clearly laid out for us from A Course In Miracles:
- Your task is to tell your brother he is right (this does not mean verbally) (1:6)
- You heal him only (ONLY) by perceiving the sanity in Him (5:1)
- You must give your brother’s errors over to the Holy Spirit (5:3)
- You “see Him truly” and “accept Him as He is” (6:3, 6:4)
- Accept only the function of healing (YOURSELF) in time (8.3)
When you see another make a mistake, don’t react at all to his mistake. This isn’t an easy practice to follow! And it doesn’t mean that you don’t react at all to your brother, but it does mean that you do not react to his mistake.
Instead, you join with the Holy Spirit and respond as He does. You “overlook” the error (4:2).
“To overlook nothingness is merely to judge it correctly, and because of your ability to evaluate it truly, to let it go.” (T-10.IV.2:4)
You actually overlook it, knowing it is not your job, you don’t understand what’s really going on, and then get back to being yourself; full of joy, love and allowance. TRUST.
Now, you’re helping the Truth to enter into your mind, and theirs, instead of reinforcing separation. It’s quite beautiful. You’re gifting everyone!
I know this is scary.
The world tells you that it’s sensible and loving to try to fix someone you care about. That’s just not True.
This is a whole new way of being. This is the fast-track behavior of a master. We’re taking the Band-Aid off a very old wound. We’re laying down our fearful defenses and getting out of the way. Let the fear come up and hand it to One who can heal it. I am with you.
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So much Love and Gratitude for this journey we are on together,
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