Shame and Guilt – They’ve Gotta Go

By Irene Tomkinson

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Reference: ACIM Circle of Atonement Edition
Chapter 5 VI. The Ego’s Use of Guilt

The ego’s primary purpose is to create fear. Fearful people attack. We attack ourselves with shame and guilt. We project our own shame and guilt onto others and attack them with judgment and blame. Attack divides us.

Guilt’s primary message is,

“I did something wrong.”

Sometimes here in the illusion on planet earth we do need to own a behavior that is not loving.

Shame however says not that I did something wrong but that “I am something wrong”.

“I can’t let you see me or know me because you will realize I’m no good and you’ll reject me.”

It’s an underlying thought that says,

“I can’t let you see me.”

The word for this phenomenon is SEPARATION.

Shame and Guilt – They’ve Gotta Go

Guilt and Shame keep us divided from our True Self which is the knowledge of the divine creations we innately Are.

One of the ways to clear out shame is through the removal of the word “should”.

First, we must recognize the “shoulds” in our internal dialogue.

“I should (fill in the blank).”

Once recognized, we can become conscious of these shaming thoughts and the toxic energy they bring.

There are no “shoulds” in Love.

There are no “shoulds” in Heaven.

Guilt says,

“You didn’t do your should.”

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Shoulds are generally ideas we learned from others. We took on their rules based on their own “shoulds”. Ask yourself,

“Whose rule is this and do I still believe in it? Do I still want to follow it? Or am I too afraid to disappoint? Am I too afraid to stand in my own truth?”

If so then we simply numb ourselves to our real Truth because we’re too afraid to listen to it.

That is separation.

Oftentimes, we use food, shopping, sex, medication, alcohol, etc. to numb our separate selves from Truth. The result is that we lose the Heaven that is ours. So instead we live in hell.

The choice to be in heaven is ours. The price is courage. Courage to be the Light that we Are. Courage is to feel the fear and do it anyway. Jesus is our example.

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3 years ago

Irene’s teaching was AMAZING and so very helpful! I’ve been doing lots of releasing of ego nonsense lately and this teaching came at the perfect time so THANK YOU Irene, very grateful. 💖

3 years ago

Thank you for sharing that video I have carried around shame and guilt for years until I realized that was someone else’s projection as a child I took on-board. Regardless of what or how much I did I carried this belief inside myself where ever I went., I would litterly freeze and burn up inside walking into a room full of people I didn’t know always feeling I was on the outside looking in and unable to talk to people because they would see me as inferior. Shame had run my life with an iron fist never letting up as… Read more »

3 years ago

Thank you for this video! I have a lot of réflexions how to teach my children in school and transform the rules using the ❤️

3 years ago

I watched Irene, this is very true, and I relate. I have known this for a long time. But doing it every day and moment is another thing. I was blessed by Irene’s sharing. I just found And have been getting into Gabrielle Bernstein’s books, I am reading ” Spirit Junkie” right now. I am thankful that I don’t have to qualify or defend myself when I choose to read another book. Glad this group does not get onto me about every decision I make. I am using her exercises. And I have been praying for healing. Because I have… Read more »

3 years ago

Irene you’re one of my favorite teachers. Thanks for the clarity around Shame and Guilt. So clear and helpful to see how these can run my life without my permission. I’m on it. “When you said GUILT seeks punishment” that was , my aha moment. That’s incredibly powerful to remember as a reason to let guilt go as if it’s a red hot rock on fire. I don’t want to live in depravation. I want freedom living an extroidinary life filled with JOY !!! I love and bless you Irene for sharing so candidly and clearly. Your talks/books are the… Read more »